Raising a child is, well, no child’s play. More so if you are a single parent. Along with the joys of seeing your child grow come the niggling parental worries. A growing child is whiny, stubborn, demanding, and wanting. It is doubly challenging when you have to do it being a single mother. A divorce or loss of your other half may take a great toll on you emotionally, physically and financially. Piecing together your life again all by yourself and giving a proper upbringing to your child can be trying. It entails everything, from packing lunch boxes to handling tantrums, inculcating the right values and discipline, solving their math problems; raising a child is not easy. However, with adequate planning, support, and yes, your innate ‘every-mother’ superwoman powers, we assure that you would do an exceptional job of parenting.
Just to ease the burden off your shoulders, we have compiled tips that would take some edge off your daily parenting chores.
1.Put the kids early to bed
“Early to bed early to rise..” as clichéd as it sounds, it is observed that kids are less likely to throw tantrums and maintain good behaviour if they sleep pretty well. Put your kids to bed by 9:30 pm each night. There are high chances that they might not sleep till 10:00 pm or so, but when they eventually sleep, they get full sleep for 9 to 10 hours. Generally, the next day, kids are far more co-operative and buoyant. Putting kids to bed early gives you ample time to manage and plan your own life as well, e.g., you could take up freelancing job, for which you now have a couple of hours before you hit the sack.
2.Plan out your finances very well in advance
Inarguably, this is the greatest of the worries. Raising a family as a single mother can be financially taxing. It is extremely important to take the right steps to plan your budget. You should learn more about long-term investments; keep aside money for college and retirement. Avail a child savings plan when your child is relatively young, thus his/her higher education will be financed easily. Also, try and take up additional part time jobs or have an added source of income by taking tuitions from home.
3.Always have a support system
All single parents need to have a strong and reliable support system. Every single mother understands that it is of immense help if there is somebody out there to take care of the kids while she is out to get some errands done or simply visiting her friends after a hard day’s work. You might find yourself dithering to leave your kids behind, but with the right friends and family members there at home, or perhaps dropping kids at their houses, you can at least rest assured about their safety, which certainly overrides other concerns. You can also join a single-mother support group via social networking sites, or, if you have enough budget, hire a trustworthy sitter who can take care of them and assist kids with their homework.
4.Pay more attention towards discipline
It is better for your children if they know which behaviour is acceptable from them and what are the rules they should follow. Spend time with them to understand their strengths and weaknesses. If you children are supervised by different caretakers, inform them about the discipline you would want your kids to have.